My thoughts on Elder Scott's talk "Temple Worship: The Source of Strength and Power in Times of Need"
Confession time. I read this talk many, many months ago, but am just getting around to posting my thoughts, so the thoughts that I had when I read it are totally different than the ones I have now. I have been through so many things since I read this talk last. The biggest of course is being diagnosed with cancer. What a "time of need." Unfortunately, when I needed the temple most, I couldn't go (it was closed and I couldn't sit because of pain) so I had to take solace in knowing the temple was there for me.
I have always felt guilty about the lack of minutes I spend in the temple each week. I know there are "times and seasons" to our lives, but I still can't help but think that there is a temple 30 minutes away (closer if the lights are in my favor) and I don't go there often enough. I want to type "regularly" but what is "regularly"? anyway. When I was pregnant and raising very young children "regularly" was once a year--between nursings. Now that I have older children, what is "regularly"? Trying to find a three to four hour window is hard. I just hope the Lord looks at my heart.
Elder Scott's advice is very good and I have used those "check boxes" if you will as I have gone to my own "temple" to meditate and ponder in my "time of need." Right now making it to the temple on a "regular" schedule will be hard, if not impossible, but I can have a "temple experience" in my own home. I can spend an hour communing, pondering, reading and going through the blessing of the temple on a "regular" schedule here in my home. I know I have thought a lot about the promises, covenants and blessing that are in those ordinances as I have faced my own mortality.
(I truly can't continue this line of thought.)
My one and only hope in my entire life is that my family lives worthy to receive the blessings of the temple sealing that happened June 30, 1989. I will be heart broken if one of my children isn't there with us in the heavens. It will kill me if I don't see seven wonderful, heavenly faces smiling back at me. Of course that means I have to live worthy to be there as well. As my children develop their own thoughts, personalities, testimonies, etc. it is scary to be a parent. As I read in the Book of Mormon and hear the pleading words of Lehi to his sons. I know where that pleading comes from. I know. I'm scared. But I know that if I do all that I can, blessings will be poured out.
I echo Elder Scott's words:
"What a blessing to have once again on the earth the sealing authority, not only for this mortal life but for the eternities. I am grateful that the Lord has restored His gospel in its fulness, including the ordinances that are required for us to be happy in the world and to live everlastingly happy lives in the hereafter."
Friday, September 18, 2009
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Lessons from the Lord's Prayers
My thoughts on Elder Nelson's talk "Lessons from the Lord's Prayer"
Prayer has been my balm these last few months. I don't think I could have lived through the months of July, August or this much of September if wasn't for prayer.
When I was a little girl the neighbor boy next door would recite this prayer word for word (from Matthew) for his prayers. I remember thinking I should learn it and do the same thing. My wise mom then taught me it was a model, a pattern, a recipe for our own prayers and not something to be recited when we wanted to talk to our Heavenly Father. Since then I have forgotten exactly how it goes--maybe that was on purpose, maybe not, I don't know--but the recipe has always stuck with me.
There is more to learn than the four step recipe of
I have always loved the word "amen" since I learned it was my "seal of approval" on a prayer. I love adding my own approval on others' prayers, talks and thoughts. I remember asking my mom what if I don't say "amen" to a prayer, does that mean I'm not finished with it?" I don't recall her answer, but in my heart there are times when I say, "My prayer is finished, but I'm not don't talking with you. Let's keep the line open just in case there is something else either of us want to say."
As I have been on many a table the past few weeks either getting radiated, imaged, poked or whatever, I have said, "My part of the prayer is ended, but I would like to keep the line open, if you don't mind. I'm scared."
I will pause when the test is done or the moment is over and close my prayer (or is it saying another prayer) and thank him for the peace he granted me. Of course I whole heartily seal it with an "amen."
But I'm struggling with this two little words, "thy will". Of course you can imagine why I'm struggling, but it is so hard to say those words right now. Eighteen years ago I said them often in prayer as we struggled with infertility and I thought it was hard then, but never in my imagination did I think it would be this hard to say those words.
I have a HUGE testimony of the power of prayer. I've had it from before I was baptized. My mom was a great part of helping me develop that testimony and I wish she was alive today so I could thank her. I have no idea how many times I prayed for our car, a lost sock, lost money, for a family member and for my father. It must have been millions of times. I remember almost always getting some sort of answer to them. One of the most vivid answers was when I was 17 and wanting to know for a truth if I was loved. WOW! what an answer.
Today, I just hope that my desire and will are the same as the Father's. I hope that our family prayers are answered. "Pray in your families unto the Father, always in my name." "As we offer unto the Lord our family and our personal prayers, let us do so with faith and trust in Him."
Those are great quotes and I only hope that our faith is strong enough to deal with the trials and challenges that face our family. I have to place my trust in him, I have to and trust that my will will be his will.
Prayer has been my balm these last few months. I don't think I could have lived through the months of July, August or this much of September if wasn't for prayer.
When I was a little girl the neighbor boy next door would recite this prayer word for word (from Matthew) for his prayers. I remember thinking I should learn it and do the same thing. My wise mom then taught me it was a model, a pattern, a recipe for our own prayers and not something to be recited when we wanted to talk to our Heavenly Father. Since then I have forgotten exactly how it goes--maybe that was on purpose, maybe not, I don't know--but the recipe has always stuck with me.
There is more to learn than the four step recipe of
- Addressing the Father
- thanking
- asking
- and closing in the Savior's name
I have always loved the word "amen" since I learned it was my "seal of approval" on a prayer. I love adding my own approval on others' prayers, talks and thoughts. I remember asking my mom what if I don't say "amen" to a prayer, does that mean I'm not finished with it?" I don't recall her answer, but in my heart there are times when I say, "My prayer is finished, but I'm not don't talking with you. Let's keep the line open just in case there is something else either of us want to say."
As I have been on many a table the past few weeks either getting radiated, imaged, poked or whatever, I have said, "My part of the prayer is ended, but I would like to keep the line open, if you don't mind. I'm scared."
I will pause when the test is done or the moment is over and close my prayer (or is it saying another prayer) and thank him for the peace he granted me. Of course I whole heartily seal it with an "amen."
But I'm struggling with this two little words, "thy will". Of course you can imagine why I'm struggling, but it is so hard to say those words right now. Eighteen years ago I said them often in prayer as we struggled with infertility and I thought it was hard then, but never in my imagination did I think it would be this hard to say those words.
I have a HUGE testimony of the power of prayer. I've had it from before I was baptized. My mom was a great part of helping me develop that testimony and I wish she was alive today so I could thank her. I have no idea how many times I prayed for our car, a lost sock, lost money, for a family member and for my father. It must have been millions of times. I remember almost always getting some sort of answer to them. One of the most vivid answers was when I was 17 and wanting to know for a truth if I was loved. WOW! what an answer.
Today, I just hope that my desire and will are the same as the Father's. I hope that our family prayers are answered. "Pray in your families unto the Father, always in my name." "As we offer unto the Lord our family and our personal prayers, let us do so with faith and trust in Him."
Those are great quotes and I only hope that our faith is strong enough to deal with the trials and challenges that face our family. I have to place my trust in him, I have to and trust that my will will be his will.
Saturday, July 11, 2009
Faith in Adversity
My thoughts on Elder Pino's talk "Faith in Adversity"
I hate these types of opening to talks. My worse nightmare is those types of stories. I don't know how I could go on without one of my children. I would die myself. BUT, I know the plan and therefore I would get up the next morning with faith and move my body that the earthly pain would subside eventually and I can move forward. At least that is my hope of what I would do. I just hope I never see my nightmare come true.
I've had enough adversity in my life to know the truthfulness of this statement: "This faithful family came to understand that when adversity arrives in our lives, the only true source of comfort is God." and this too: "In both of the experiences that these good families endured, pain and sorrow left because of the light of the gospel, which filled them with peace and comfort, providing the assurance that everything would be well."
I have endured my little adversities because I have placed my trust and my faith in the Great Plan. It didn't take the pain away (physical as well as emotionally and spiritually) but it does give peace and comfort to your body, heart, soul and hopefully your family.
I know the children sing the song "The Wise and Foolish Man" often in primary--to get wiggles out etc, but it does teach a great lesson.
"In both of the experiences that these good families endured, pain and sorrow left because of the light of the gospel, which filled them with peace and comfort, providing the assurance that everything would be well."
We will get rained on--that is a given! It will flood, it may even wash away our house, but we sink or swim because of our personal foundation.
I hate these types of opening to talks. My worse nightmare is those types of stories. I don't know how I could go on without one of my children. I would die myself. BUT, I know the plan and therefore I would get up the next morning with faith and move my body that the earthly pain would subside eventually and I can move forward. At least that is my hope of what I would do. I just hope I never see my nightmare come true.
I've had enough adversity in my life to know the truthfulness of this statement: "This faithful family came to understand that when adversity arrives in our lives, the only true source of comfort is God." and this too: "In both of the experiences that these good families endured, pain and sorrow left because of the light of the gospel, which filled them with peace and comfort, providing the assurance that everything would be well."
I have endured my little adversities because I have placed my trust and my faith in the Great Plan. It didn't take the pain away (physical as well as emotionally and spiritually) but it does give peace and comfort to your body, heart, soul and hopefully your family.
I know the children sing the song "The Wise and Foolish Man" often in primary--to get wiggles out etc, but it does teach a great lesson.
"In both of the experiences that these good families endured, pain and sorrow left because of the light of the gospel, which filled them with peace and comfort, providing the assurance that everything would be well."
We will get rained on--that is a given! It will flood, it may even wash away our house, but we sink or swim because of our personal foundation.
Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ
My thoughts on Elder Pearson's talk "Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ"
One of my favorite gospel topics to discuss.
Many, many years ago I had some very sick kids and they all received Priesthood blessings. The next morning one of the kids was feeling much better. I was patting myself on the back for my extra faith I had in helping that child get over their sickness after all they were just children, not even baptized, what did they know about faith.
As they sat for breakfast, the one who was feeling better turned to me and said, "I knew it would work." I questioned him not knowing what he was talking about. "I had faith that daddy's words would work and now I'm all better."
I then turned and had a gut check moment. Here I was thinking it was my faith that was going to have to heal that boy (along with his brothers) and it was his faith that was and did it.
I've thought about that scene often. He was only five at the time and he had "faith like a little child." I play it often on my memory DVD player. Never count them out, in fact count on them!
Elder Pearson had some great thoughts and my copy is all marked up. I'll try not to copy the WHOLE talk but it will be difficult as his words just spoke to my heart.
"As parents, we have been commanded to teach our children “to understand the doctrine of . . . faith in Christ the Son of the living God” (D&C 68:25). This requires more than merely recognizing faith as a gospel principle. “To have faith is to have confidence in something or someone” (Bible Dictionary, “Faith,” 669). True faith must be centered in Jesus Christ. “Faith is a principle of action and of power” (Bible Dictionary, 670). It requires us to do, not merely to believe. Faith is a spiritual gift from God that comes through the Holy Ghost. It requires a correct understanding and knowledge of Jesus Christ, His divine attributes and perfect character, His teachings, Atonement, Resurrection, and priesthood power. Obedience to these principles develops complete trust in Him and His ordained servants and assurance of His promised blessings."
I love the Bible Dictionary. Someday just read it for your scripture study! It is such a cool way to study. You learn so much.
"Confidence in something or someone"
Do you have confidence in the Atonement?
Do you have confidence in the Resurrection?
Do you have confidence in the Prophet and his guidance and direction?
Do you have confidence in the power of the Priesthood?
And if you do, how do you pass this along to your children?
Those are all "gospel" things but what about faith in non gospel things?
Do you have confidence in your marriage?
Do you have confidence in your children?
Do you have confidence in your family?
Do you have confidence in __________ ?
Where do we put our faith?
How do we build faith?
How do we build faith in the correct things?
And what happens when we put our faith (and trust) in the wrong things and those things fail us? Or in the right things and they fail us? (I'm thinking of "mortal" things not gospel things that are true and right.)
Is our faith in the gospel, in The Plan, rooted deep enough to withstand the batterings and failures of some of the things we put our confidence in?
(See why I like this topic so much? Great questions pop up.)
"There is no other thing in which we can have absolute assurance. There is no other foundation in life that can bring the same peace, joy, and hope. In uncertain and difficult times, faith is truly a spiritual gift worthy of our utmost efforts. We can give our children education, lessons, athletics, the arts, and material possessions, but if we do not give them faith in Christ, we have given little." (emphasis mine)
What a bold and true statement. And a tasks that is hard to measure or know when you are done. This is my biggest worry in life: that I have failed to teach my children correctly. I worry they will come to a crossroad in life and make the wrong decision because of the information I gave them.
A simple and true statement: "If we desire more faith, we must be more obedient."
I can only hope I'm doing: "When we teach our children by example or precept to be casual or situational in obeying God’s commandments, we prevent them from receiving this vital spiritual gift. Faith requires an attitude of exact obedience, even in the small, simple things."
Now that they are teens (most of them) I'm looking back and asking "Did I? Did I teach them by example? Are they recognizing my faith and obedience? Are they learning? Am I doing good enough? Where did I go wrong?"
I know the power of obedience. I learned that from my mother. I just pray I'm teaching that example.
Here are a few more quotes:
"Desire is a particle of faith that develops within us as we experience divine truth."
"Hope develops as particles of faith become molecules and as simple efforts to live true principles occur."
"As patterns of obedience develop, the specific blessings associated with obedience are realized and belief emerges."
"Personal righteousness is a choice."
AMEN!
I'm not sure I want to talk about the "opposition", but it is necessary as our children need to know (so do we) that the power of evil wants us to be unhappy and will use everything to do so--that is the plan after all.
So what is opposite of faith?
"Faith and fear cannot coexist."
We can not fear!
I love all this "school talk" he uses in his talk--
"Consider it this way: our net usable faith is what we have left to exercise after we subtract our sources of doubt and disbelief. You might ask yourself this question: “Is my own net faith positive or negative?” If your faith exceeds your doubt and disbelief, the answer is likely positive. If you allow doubt and disbelief to control you, the answer might be negative."
Good question. Is my faith net positive or negative?
And then he says this:
"We get what we focus on consistently. Because there is an opposition in all things, there are forces that erode our faith. Some are the result of Satan’s direct influence. But for others, we have no one but ourselves to blame. These stem from personal tendencies, attitudes, and habits we can learn to change."
The six D's he calls them:
Doubt: a negative emotion, lack of confidence (see above)
Discouragement: lower expectations, missed expectations
Distraction: lack of focus (above he says, "we get what we focus on")
lack of Diligence: reduced commitment (if you don't commit to church you won't go)
Disobedience: I've always said that "Obedience is the key to happiness"
Disbelief: past feeling
How do we overcome these?
Have we overcome them?
How do we teach our children to recognize and overcome them?
How do we teach our children to put their faith in true things, things that are good?
One of my favorite gospel topics to discuss.
Many, many years ago I had some very sick kids and they all received Priesthood blessings. The next morning one of the kids was feeling much better. I was patting myself on the back for my extra faith I had in helping that child get over their sickness after all they were just children, not even baptized, what did they know about faith.
As they sat for breakfast, the one who was feeling better turned to me and said, "I knew it would work." I questioned him not knowing what he was talking about. "I had faith that daddy's words would work and now I'm all better."
I then turned and had a gut check moment. Here I was thinking it was my faith that was going to have to heal that boy (along with his brothers) and it was his faith that was and did it.
I've thought about that scene often. He was only five at the time and he had "faith like a little child." I play it often on my memory DVD player. Never count them out, in fact count on them!
Elder Pearson had some great thoughts and my copy is all marked up. I'll try not to copy the WHOLE talk but it will be difficult as his words just spoke to my heart.
"As parents, we have been commanded to teach our children “to understand the doctrine of . . . faith in Christ the Son of the living God” (D&C 68:25). This requires more than merely recognizing faith as a gospel principle. “To have faith is to have confidence in something or someone” (Bible Dictionary, “Faith,” 669). True faith must be centered in Jesus Christ. “Faith is a principle of action and of power” (Bible Dictionary, 670). It requires us to do, not merely to believe. Faith is a spiritual gift from God that comes through the Holy Ghost. It requires a correct understanding and knowledge of Jesus Christ, His divine attributes and perfect character, His teachings, Atonement, Resurrection, and priesthood power. Obedience to these principles develops complete trust in Him and His ordained servants and assurance of His promised blessings."
I love the Bible Dictionary. Someday just read it for your scripture study! It is such a cool way to study. You learn so much.
"Confidence in something or someone"
Do you have confidence in the Atonement?
Do you have confidence in the Resurrection?
Do you have confidence in the Prophet and his guidance and direction?
Do you have confidence in the power of the Priesthood?
And if you do, how do you pass this along to your children?
Those are all "gospel" things but what about faith in non gospel things?
Do you have confidence in your marriage?
Do you have confidence in your children?
Do you have confidence in your family?
Do you have confidence in __________ ?
Where do we put our faith?
How do we build faith?
How do we build faith in the correct things?
And what happens when we put our faith (and trust) in the wrong things and those things fail us? Or in the right things and they fail us? (I'm thinking of "mortal" things not gospel things that are true and right.)
Is our faith in the gospel, in The Plan, rooted deep enough to withstand the batterings and failures of some of the things we put our confidence in?
(See why I like this topic so much? Great questions pop up.)
"There is no other thing in which we can have absolute assurance. There is no other foundation in life that can bring the same peace, joy, and hope. In uncertain and difficult times, faith is truly a spiritual gift worthy of our utmost efforts. We can give our children education, lessons, athletics, the arts, and material possessions, but if we do not give them faith in Christ, we have given little." (emphasis mine)
What a bold and true statement. And a tasks that is hard to measure or know when you are done. This is my biggest worry in life: that I have failed to teach my children correctly. I worry they will come to a crossroad in life and make the wrong decision because of the information I gave them.
A simple and true statement: "If we desire more faith, we must be more obedient."
I can only hope I'm doing: "When we teach our children by example or precept to be casual or situational in obeying God’s commandments, we prevent them from receiving this vital spiritual gift. Faith requires an attitude of exact obedience, even in the small, simple things."
Now that they are teens (most of them) I'm looking back and asking "Did I? Did I teach them by example? Are they recognizing my faith and obedience? Are they learning? Am I doing good enough? Where did I go wrong?"
I know the power of obedience. I learned that from my mother. I just pray I'm teaching that example.
Here are a few more quotes:
"Desire is a particle of faith that develops within us as we experience divine truth."
"Hope develops as particles of faith become molecules and as simple efforts to live true principles occur."
"As patterns of obedience develop, the specific blessings associated with obedience are realized and belief emerges."
"Personal righteousness is a choice."
AMEN!
I'm not sure I want to talk about the "opposition", but it is necessary as our children need to know (so do we) that the power of evil wants us to be unhappy and will use everything to do so--that is the plan after all.
So what is opposite of faith?
"Faith and fear cannot coexist."
We can not fear!
I love all this "school talk" he uses in his talk--
"Consider it this way: our net usable faith is what we have left to exercise after we subtract our sources of doubt and disbelief. You might ask yourself this question: “Is my own net faith positive or negative?” If your faith exceeds your doubt and disbelief, the answer is likely positive. If you allow doubt and disbelief to control you, the answer might be negative."
Good question. Is my faith net positive or negative?
And then he says this:
"We get what we focus on consistently. Because there is an opposition in all things, there are forces that erode our faith. Some are the result of Satan’s direct influence. But for others, we have no one but ourselves to blame. These stem from personal tendencies, attitudes, and habits we can learn to change."
The six D's he calls them:
Doubt: a negative emotion, lack of confidence (see above)
Discouragement: lower expectations, missed expectations
Distraction: lack of focus (above he says, "we get what we focus on")
lack of Diligence: reduced commitment (if you don't commit to church you won't go)
Disobedience: I've always said that "Obedience is the key to happiness"
Disbelief: past feeling
How do we overcome these?
Have we overcome them?
How do we teach our children to recognize and overcome them?
How do we teach our children to put their faith in true things, things that are good?
Our Father's Plan--Big Enough for All His Children
My thoughts on Elder Cook's talk "Our Father's Plan--Big Enough for All His Children".
I love the story about Dickens trying to find something bad, awful about the Mormons and finding the opposite instead. I don't know how many times I run into someone whose views of the Mormons are so opposite of what the media etc portray us as. "I knew a Mormon family once and they were so kind and loving." I just hope that people are saying that about my family.
"There have been two contrasting reports with respect to the Church. On one hand, righteous members and the way they live their lives have generally been reported on favorably. Those who know Latter-day Saints personally or have the opportunity to observe them up close have the same view that Charles Dickens reported almost 150 years ago."
"Because of the uplifting doctrine of the Restoration, members rejoice in the gospel and find joy and satisfaction in the Church. We are viewed favorably when we live the teachings of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ. When members don’t live the teachings, it can be a stumbling block to those who do not belong to the Church."
My mom's words "Remember who you are and act that part" rings in my ears.
Elder Cook goes on to talk about those who might have stumbling blocks with our faith.
I love the story about swans. It is good to have an open mind.
I think my family was much like his ancestor. I think when they first heard the message they knew it was true and accepted it, embraced it and as soon as they could forsook all and went to Zion. It is truly gut-check time. Would I know it if I wasn't born into it?
The next section of his talk has hit a chord in my heart. I think this is one reason I love this church so much--we accept everyone, just like our Father. Although we believe that we are the only true church on the earth we don't have a corner market on righteousness and goodness. I have met many people of other faiths who do good works, are righteous people and dare I say a better person than I.
I can think of countless non-members who are "headliners" who have a ticket stamped for heaven when they get there but have never entered the waters of baptism here on earth. I think Heavenly Father wanted them where they were to make the difference in the people's lives they touched without the gospel. Mother Teresa comes to mind in a second. His plan is big enough for us all!
back to the talk:
"It is equally important that we be loving and kind to members of our own faith, regardless of their level of commitment or activity. The Savior has made it clear that we are not to judge each other. This is especially true of members of our own families. Our obligation is to love and teach and never give up. The Lord has made salvation “free for all men” but has “commanded his people that they should persuade all men to repentance.”"
I have many times judged my own family and it was wrong. Lately I've been judged by a family member and what that person thought about me was completely wrong. It is amazing what is happening because of that judgment. A lesson to me. I can only pray that person's heart will see my heart the way it truly is and not as they thought. But I do fear the worse and have already seen some damage that has been done to the family because of that judgment. A very, very good lesson for me about truly NOT JUDGING even if you are there and witness something. You never know the whole story!
And a lesson I'm taking to heart this week. I'm not going to jump to conclusion about something and I will not judge. Instead I will do as Alma Sr. did, pray that a change of heart can happen (maybe it is my own heart that needs to change) and let the Lord judge. It is his plan anyway.
I love the story about Dickens trying to find something bad, awful about the Mormons and finding the opposite instead. I don't know how many times I run into someone whose views of the Mormons are so opposite of what the media etc portray us as. "I knew a Mormon family once and they were so kind and loving." I just hope that people are saying that about my family.
"There have been two contrasting reports with respect to the Church. On one hand, righteous members and the way they live their lives have generally been reported on favorably. Those who know Latter-day Saints personally or have the opportunity to observe them up close have the same view that Charles Dickens reported almost 150 years ago."
"Because of the uplifting doctrine of the Restoration, members rejoice in the gospel and find joy and satisfaction in the Church. We are viewed favorably when we live the teachings of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ. When members don’t live the teachings, it can be a stumbling block to those who do not belong to the Church."
My mom's words "Remember who you are and act that part" rings in my ears.
Elder Cook goes on to talk about those who might have stumbling blocks with our faith.
I love the story about swans. It is good to have an open mind.
I think my family was much like his ancestor. I think when they first heard the message they knew it was true and accepted it, embraced it and as soon as they could forsook all and went to Zion. It is truly gut-check time. Would I know it if I wasn't born into it?
The next section of his talk has hit a chord in my heart. I think this is one reason I love this church so much--we accept everyone, just like our Father. Although we believe that we are the only true church on the earth we don't have a corner market on righteousness and goodness. I have met many people of other faiths who do good works, are righteous people and dare I say a better person than I.
I can think of countless non-members who are "headliners" who have a ticket stamped for heaven when they get there but have never entered the waters of baptism here on earth. I think Heavenly Father wanted them where they were to make the difference in the people's lives they touched without the gospel. Mother Teresa comes to mind in a second. His plan is big enough for us all!
back to the talk:
"It is equally important that we be loving and kind to members of our own faith, regardless of their level of commitment or activity. The Savior has made it clear that we are not to judge each other. This is especially true of members of our own families. Our obligation is to love and teach and never give up. The Lord has made salvation “free for all men” but has “commanded his people that they should persuade all men to repentance.”"
I have many times judged my own family and it was wrong. Lately I've been judged by a family member and what that person thought about me was completely wrong. It is amazing what is happening because of that judgment. A lesson to me. I can only pray that person's heart will see my heart the way it truly is and not as they thought. But I do fear the worse and have already seen some damage that has been done to the family because of that judgment. A very, very good lesson for me about truly NOT JUDGING even if you are there and witness something. You never know the whole story!
And a lesson I'm taking to heart this week. I'm not going to jump to conclusion about something and I will not judge. Instead I will do as Alma Sr. did, pray that a change of heart can happen (maybe it is my own heart that needs to change) and let the Lord judge. It is his plan anyway.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Learning the Lessons of the Past
My thoughts on Elder Ballard's talk "Learning Lessons of the Past"
Elder Ballard's humor is so sweet. The generation gap is sometimes so huge and yet so sweet.
This talk is one I hope my boys and girl read. There is so much wisdom for them in it. I remember when it was given we were struggling with a son and he was rebelling and not willing to listen to the conference talks that Sunday. My heart ached that he wasn't there listening to this wonderful talk. But as Elder Ballard said one must be "willing to listen and learn,". Do you think he will ever? I pray he will. I know I was more like him than I want to admit and it scares me. I just hope he is learning and listening and doing it willingly.
"When you are willing to listen and learn, some of life’s most meaningful teachings come from those who have gone before you. They have walked where you are walking and have experienced many of the things you are experiencing. If you listen and respond to their counsel, they can help guide you toward choices that will be for your benefit and blessing and steer you away from decisions that can destroy you. As you look to your parents and others who have gone before you, you will find examples of faith, commitment, hard work, dedication, and sacrifice that you should strive to duplicate."
"It is my message and testimony to you today, my young friends, that for the most important questions of your eternal lives, there are answers in the scriptures and in the words and testimonies of apostles and prophets. The fact that these words come largely from older men, past and present, doesn’t make them any less relevant. In fact, it makes their words even more valuable to you because they come from those who have learned much through years of devout living."
"There are great lessons to be learned from the past, and you ought to learn them so that you don’t exhaust your spiritual strength repeating past mistakes and bad choices."
I rejoice when my children have something happen to them and they handle it correctly and then say something like, "Well, I remember when we read about (prophets name) in the scriptures and how he handled a similar situation," or something like that. My heart rejoices.
I know trying to tell my kids about my experiences is like talking to a brick wall. They don't care. They don't want to know. Everything that is happening to them is new and never been done before. I have to remind them that it isn't new. Yes, the medium of delivery might be new, but hurt feelings, broken promises, failed classes, broken fenders, broken hearts all happened long before and will continue to happen. Not much is new on the human emotional learning scene.
" Time and again we see the cycle of righteousness followed by wickedness,"
"...spiritual darkness results when His children turn their collective backs on Him."
Do we have this happening in our own little lives? Are we learning from those repeating patterns in the scriptures? Are we turning our backs on the Lord because we think we can do it ourselves? We don't need his help? He is out to punish us? The windows of heaven are closed?
"Does any of this sound familiar, my young brothers and sisters? Do you see the historical pattern emerging again—the pattern of righteousness followed by prosperity, followed by material comforts, followed by greed, followed by pride, followed by wickedness and a collapse of morality—the same pattern we’ve seen again and again within the pages of the Old and New Testaments and the Book of Mormon? More importantly, what impact will the lessons of the past have on the personal choices you make right now and for the rest of your lives?"
Eye opening statement! and his question is profound. What choices am I making? Am I following his council to learn?
"The voice of the Lord is clear and unmistakable. He knows you. He loves you. He wants you to be eternally happy. But according to your God-given agency, the choice is yours. Each one of you has to decide for yourself if you are going to ignore the past and suffer the painful mistakes and tragic pitfalls that have befallen previous generations, experiencing for yourself the devastating consequences of bad choices. How much better your life will be if you will follow the noble example of the faithful followers of Christ such as the sons of Helaman, Moroni, Joseph Smith, and the stalwart pioneers—and choose, as they did, to remain faithful to your Heavenly Father’s commandments."
"Learning the lessons of the past allows you to walk boldly in the light without running the risk of stumbling in the darkness. This is the way it’s supposed to work. This is God’s plan: father and mother, grandfather and grandmother teaching their children; children learning from them and then becoming a more righteous generation through their own personal experiences and opportunities. Learning the lessons of the past allows you to build personal testimony on a solid bedrock of obedience, faith, and the witness of the Spirit."
Let's all sing, "The wise man built his house upon a rock." Where is my house being built?
Now this next statement is a wow for those of us who homeschool. I need to expound on this one some more.
"Of course, it’s not enough to learn these lessons as a matter of history and culture. Learning the names and dates and sequence of events from the printed page won’t help you very much unless the meaning and the message are written in your hearts. Nourished by testimony and watered with faith, the lessons of the past can take root in your hearts and become a vibrant part of who you are."
"And so it returns, as it always does, to your own personal faith and testimony. That is the difference-maker, my young brothers and sisters. That is how you know. That is how you avoid the mistakes of the past and take your spirituality to the next level. If you are open and receptive to the whisperings of the Holy Spirit in your lives, you will understand the lessons of the past, and they will be burned into your souls by the power of your testimonies."
And I add my amen to this statement:
"That you may find joy and happiness and peace in the future by learning the great and eternal lessons of the past is my prayer for each of you—for my grandchildren and all of the youth of the Church, wherever you may be".
Gut check time! What am I learning from history, both church, gospel and family? What am I learning from my own personal history? Am I making the same mistakes? What am I teaching my children? Date? Places? Times? or am I teaching them consequences to actions. Am I teaching them moral lessons? Gospel lessons? Courage in the face of trial? And am I living like I learned them?
Elder Ballard's humor is so sweet. The generation gap is sometimes so huge and yet so sweet.
This talk is one I hope my boys and girl read. There is so much wisdom for them in it. I remember when it was given we were struggling with a son and he was rebelling and not willing to listen to the conference talks that Sunday. My heart ached that he wasn't there listening to this wonderful talk. But as Elder Ballard said one must be "willing to listen and learn,". Do you think he will ever? I pray he will. I know I was more like him than I want to admit and it scares me. I just hope he is learning and listening and doing it willingly.
"When you are willing to listen and learn, some of life’s most meaningful teachings come from those who have gone before you. They have walked where you are walking and have experienced many of the things you are experiencing. If you listen and respond to their counsel, they can help guide you toward choices that will be for your benefit and blessing and steer you away from decisions that can destroy you. As you look to your parents and others who have gone before you, you will find examples of faith, commitment, hard work, dedication, and sacrifice that you should strive to duplicate."
"It is my message and testimony to you today, my young friends, that for the most important questions of your eternal lives, there are answers in the scriptures and in the words and testimonies of apostles and prophets. The fact that these words come largely from older men, past and present, doesn’t make them any less relevant. In fact, it makes their words even more valuable to you because they come from those who have learned much through years of devout living."
"There are great lessons to be learned from the past, and you ought to learn them so that you don’t exhaust your spiritual strength repeating past mistakes and bad choices."
I rejoice when my children have something happen to them and they handle it correctly and then say something like, "Well, I remember when we read about (prophets name) in the scriptures and how he handled a similar situation," or something like that. My heart rejoices.
I know trying to tell my kids about my experiences is like talking to a brick wall. They don't care. They don't want to know. Everything that is happening to them is new and never been done before. I have to remind them that it isn't new. Yes, the medium of delivery might be new, but hurt feelings, broken promises, failed classes, broken fenders, broken hearts all happened long before and will continue to happen. Not much is new on the human emotional learning scene.
" Time and again we see the cycle of righteousness followed by wickedness,"
"...spiritual darkness results when His children turn their collective backs on Him."
Do we have this happening in our own little lives? Are we learning from those repeating patterns in the scriptures? Are we turning our backs on the Lord because we think we can do it ourselves? We don't need his help? He is out to punish us? The windows of heaven are closed?
"Does any of this sound familiar, my young brothers and sisters? Do you see the historical pattern emerging again—the pattern of righteousness followed by prosperity, followed by material comforts, followed by greed, followed by pride, followed by wickedness and a collapse of morality—the same pattern we’ve seen again and again within the pages of the Old and New Testaments and the Book of Mormon? More importantly, what impact will the lessons of the past have on the personal choices you make right now and for the rest of your lives?"
Eye opening statement! and his question is profound. What choices am I making? Am I following his council to learn?
"The voice of the Lord is clear and unmistakable. He knows you. He loves you. He wants you to be eternally happy. But according to your God-given agency, the choice is yours. Each one of you has to decide for yourself if you are going to ignore the past and suffer the painful mistakes and tragic pitfalls that have befallen previous generations, experiencing for yourself the devastating consequences of bad choices. How much better your life will be if you will follow the noble example of the faithful followers of Christ such as the sons of Helaman, Moroni, Joseph Smith, and the stalwart pioneers—and choose, as they did, to remain faithful to your Heavenly Father’s commandments."
"Learning the lessons of the past allows you to walk boldly in the light without running the risk of stumbling in the darkness. This is the way it’s supposed to work. This is God’s plan: father and mother, grandfather and grandmother teaching their children; children learning from them and then becoming a more righteous generation through their own personal experiences and opportunities. Learning the lessons of the past allows you to build personal testimony on a solid bedrock of obedience, faith, and the witness of the Spirit."
Let's all sing, "The wise man built his house upon a rock." Where is my house being built?
Now this next statement is a wow for those of us who homeschool. I need to expound on this one some more.
"Of course, it’s not enough to learn these lessons as a matter of history and culture. Learning the names and dates and sequence of events from the printed page won’t help you very much unless the meaning and the message are written in your hearts. Nourished by testimony and watered with faith, the lessons of the past can take root in your hearts and become a vibrant part of who you are."
"And so it returns, as it always does, to your own personal faith and testimony. That is the difference-maker, my young brothers and sisters. That is how you know. That is how you avoid the mistakes of the past and take your spirituality to the next level. If you are open and receptive to the whisperings of the Holy Spirit in your lives, you will understand the lessons of the past, and they will be burned into your souls by the power of your testimonies."
And I add my amen to this statement:
"That you may find joy and happiness and peace in the future by learning the great and eternal lessons of the past is my prayer for each of you—for my grandchildren and all of the youth of the Church, wherever you may be".
Gut check time! What am I learning from history, both church, gospel and family? What am I learning from my own personal history? Am I making the same mistakes? What am I teaching my children? Date? Places? Times? or am I teaching them consequences to actions. Am I teaching them moral lessons? Gospel lessons? Courage in the face of trial? And am I living like I learned them?
Adversity
My thoughts on President Eyring's talk "Adversity"
A timely talk.
I'm not sure if anyone else was listening because this talk was just for me.
"The anger comes at least in part from a feeling that what is happening is unfair."
Our children use the "unfair" line on us all the time, but how often do we use it on our Lord? I'm guilty of it. Probably have said it way too often as of late. I'm not a perfect person, but I know life isn't fair and bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. But as my mom always said, "It is how your react to those things that put you on the good side or the bad side of heaven."
I know that adversity is part of the Lord's plan. I knew it before and I know it now and will know it after. "Opposition in ALL things." It is also very important for us as Children of God to use that opposition in all things to prove ourselves to the Lord.
Pres Eyring said, "The very opportunity for us to face adversity and affliction is part of the evidence of Their infinite love. God gave us the gift of living in mortality so that we could be prepared to receive the greatest of all the gifts of God, which is eternal life. Then our spirits will be changed. We will become able to want what God wants, to think as He thinks, and thus be prepared for the trust of an endless posterity to teach and to lead through tests to be raised up to qualify to live forever in eternal life."
We are here to prove ourselves worthy and it is through these trials that we prove ourselves. I just hope I pass.
Pres. Eyring gives us great words of hope and blessings.
"It is clear that for us to have that gift and to be given that trust, we must be transformed through making righteous choices where that is hard to do. We are prepared for so great a trust by passing through trying and testing experiences in mortality. That education can come only as we are subject to trials while serving God and others for Him."
"In this education we experience misery and happiness, sickness and health, the sadness from sin and the joy of forgiveness. That forgiveness can come only through the infinite Atonement of the Savior, which He worked out through pain we could not bear and which we can only faintly comprehend.
"The Lord will rescue His faithful disciples. And the disciple who accepts a trial as an invitation to grow and therefore qualify for eternal life can find peace in the midst of the struggle."
"He had begun to prepare his heart to be worthy of the Lord’s help which he knew he would in the near future need."
"Tragedy did not erode their faith; it tested it and strengthened it. And the feeling of peace the Lord has promised has already been delivered in the midst of the storm. Other miracles are sure to follow."
"He set a course for each of us that can polish and perfect us to be with Him."
I can only pray and hope that I will finish the work he has asked me to do and do it well. I can only pray and have faith that I will weather every storm, every trial and every illness that befalls me and my family with the hope that President Eyring asks and shows us. Adversity will come. It will! I just pray I will be able to stand up to it, beat it down, deal with it and come out the other end polished.
A timely talk.
I'm not sure if anyone else was listening because this talk was just for me.
"The anger comes at least in part from a feeling that what is happening is unfair."
Our children use the "unfair" line on us all the time, but how often do we use it on our Lord? I'm guilty of it. Probably have said it way too often as of late. I'm not a perfect person, but I know life isn't fair and bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. But as my mom always said, "It is how your react to those things that put you on the good side or the bad side of heaven."
I know that adversity is part of the Lord's plan. I knew it before and I know it now and will know it after. "Opposition in ALL things." It is also very important for us as Children of God to use that opposition in all things to prove ourselves to the Lord.
Pres Eyring said, "The very opportunity for us to face adversity and affliction is part of the evidence of Their infinite love. God gave us the gift of living in mortality so that we could be prepared to receive the greatest of all the gifts of God, which is eternal life. Then our spirits will be changed. We will become able to want what God wants, to think as He thinks, and thus be prepared for the trust of an endless posterity to teach and to lead through tests to be raised up to qualify to live forever in eternal life."
We are here to prove ourselves worthy and it is through these trials that we prove ourselves. I just hope I pass.
Pres. Eyring gives us great words of hope and blessings.
"It is clear that for us to have that gift and to be given that trust, we must be transformed through making righteous choices where that is hard to do. We are prepared for so great a trust by passing through trying and testing experiences in mortality. That education can come only as we are subject to trials while serving God and others for Him."
"In this education we experience misery and happiness, sickness and health, the sadness from sin and the joy of forgiveness. That forgiveness can come only through the infinite Atonement of the Savior, which He worked out through pain we could not bear and which we can only faintly comprehend.
"The Lord will rescue His faithful disciples. And the disciple who accepts a trial as an invitation to grow and therefore qualify for eternal life can find peace in the midst of the struggle."
"He had begun to prepare his heart to be worthy of the Lord’s help which he knew he would in the near future need."
"Tragedy did not erode their faith; it tested it and strengthened it. And the feeling of peace the Lord has promised has already been delivered in the midst of the storm. Other miracles are sure to follow."
"He set a course for each of us that can polish and perfect us to be with Him."
I can only pray and hope that I will finish the work he has asked me to do and do it well. I can only pray and have faith that I will weather every storm, every trial and every illness that befalls me and my family with the hope that President Eyring asks and shows us. Adversity will come. It will! I just pray I will be able to stand up to it, beat it down, deal with it and come out the other end polished.
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