The Power of Patience

Thought from Elder Robert C. Oaks "The Power of Patience"

I too have had to pause and reflect and ponder on his words. Last week my husband was off work, and he will go back for a few more days before he has the rest of the year off (we have "use it or loose it" days he has to take) and I have noticed how impatient he is and how it rubs off on me. The slightest disruption he flies off the handle and likewise I go too (I'm exposing more warts than I want, but we HAVE to beat this beast). So here is my question to you as a group..

How do I get my husband to see this fault? Yes, I'm working on the mote and beam that are in my eye, but it is really hard in a complete partnership to stand by and see my husband loose it when the children are around. I asked him to read this and he literally shoved it back at me :-(

I have to really solve this problem for the sake of my family. I know it starts with me, but I feel like I'm trying to change the course of the battleship with a little paddle and all I'm doing is making waves that only the guppies are seeing.

(from another post)

[name deleted],
The point of this group isn't necessarily to share the insights we have (although those are what opens our eyes to see a view we hadn't ever thought about) but the point is for us to stop, reread, rehear and ponder on the words of our prophets and hence the words of our Heavenly Father. So, I would tell your husband that this is a group that is fulfilling its purpose (at least for me and for you because you are meeting the goals *I* set out ~smile~).

Thank you for sharing your views. This talk has really, really hit me hard! In Seattle we are snowed in (my driveway is literally a sheet of black ice and my hubby's car is at the bottom of a hill about half a mile away) so I have had time to do some work that I normally wouldn't get done. One is to reread the comments that I have saved from this group (I have a bad habit of not deleting messages). Anyway, I have had to stop on ponder on the selfish nature of my impatience. I'm very selfish! There is no way around it. And because of it, my children are very impatient and selfish too. I hate breaking cycles. it is soooooooo HARD, but I must. Now to get everyone on my side, especially hubby.

BTW [name deleted], you may not think your thoughts are deep, but to some of us they are thoughts that we haven't even gotten to, so yes, they are deep. Thank you for being brave and opening up. I'm glad that you are having success and I wish you tons more...hopefully some will rub off on me.

BTW2-I didn't explode at a child this morning even after he deliberately went contrary to my instructions. I was calm and I think that totally surprised him. One little success, at least I'm going down the right road :-) (hopefully it isn't full of black ice and I fall backwards).